How to Have a Kid and a Life

Name: How to Have a Kid and a Life
Brand: Macmillan Publishers New Zealand Ltd
SKU: 9781683644873
Price: 42.99 NZD
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By Ericka Sóuter

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How to Have a Kid and a Life by Ericka Sôuter offers a refreshing perspective on modern motherhood, challenging the notion that being a good mom means sacrificing your identity. Drawing from her own experiences and extensive research, Sôuter combines heartfelt personal stories with expert advice to help mothers maintain their careers, nurture their relationships, and reclaim self-care amid parenting demands. This guide also addresses handling unhelpful partners, building a supportive community, and staying connected with friends without children, all while embracing the reality that 'good enough' parenting is perfectly fine.
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Continue to have and grow your life, Mom. It's better for you and your kids.

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Continue to have and grow your life, Mum—for your sake and your kids'.

When did being a good mum come to mean giving up everything that used to make you you? That's the question millions of 21st-century mothers grapple with every single day as they parent in our madly kid-centric culture. Contrary to the incessant messaging from everywhere, committing to yourself and your own needs is what makes for a good mother and happy kids.

With How to Have a Kid and a Life, popular journalist and Good Morning America parenting expert Ericka Sóuter shares her tips for being a happy, whole person while still being a great, and sometimes just good enough (which is plenty fine), parent. Sóuter blends her own stories of surviving the seismic challenges of parenthood with testimonials from stay-at-home and working mums; interviews with therapists and researchers; and findings from the latest studies on happiness, self-care, and parenthood. What she delivers is a wonderfully irreverent survival guide to motherhood, featuring:

Advice on keeping your career on track while parenting
Tips for handling clueless and unhelpful partners
Taking back ownership of your body
Creating a reliable village of support (even with mums you didn't think you'd like)
Staying connected with child-free friends
What to do if you feel like you're missing the "mum gene"

Book Hero Magic summarised reviews for this book. While it's new and still learning, it may not be perfect - your feedback is welcome! HOW HAS THIS BEEN REVIEWED?

"Journalist Sôuter debuts with an encouraging guide for new mothers overwhelmed by cultural expectations," notes Publishers Weekly. Eve Rodsky, bestselling author of Fair Play, calls it "a brilliant book for any woman feeling alone or overwhelmed," highlighting its empowering message that no mother is alone. Dr Jennifer Ashton, MD, praises the book’s frank, relatable approach to balancing parenthood with personal identity, saying "I laughed, I cried, and I learned."

Book Details

INFORMATION

ISBN: 9781683644873

Publisher: Sounds True Inc

Format: Paperback / softback

Date Published: 24 August 2021

Country: United States

Imprint: Sounds True Inc

Audience: General / adult

DIMENSIONS

Spine width: 21.0mm

Width: 138.0mm

Height: 205.0mm

Weight: 250g

Pages: 240

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Ericka Sóuter Health & Wellness Mindset & Self Help New Year, New You Non-Fiction Parenting & Family Self-Help & Personal Development

About the Author

Ericka Sóuter is a parenting expert on Good Morning America. She writes for mom.com, CafeMom, and other sites that reach millions of parents monthly. She has written for Self, Cosmopolitan, Essence, and HuffPost and has been on staff at Us Weekly and People. She lives in Manhattan with her husband and two sons. For more, visit erickasouter.com.

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