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Giving The Love That Heals

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Giving The Love That Heals by Harville Hendrix and Helen Hunt explores how parents can nurture their own emotional growth while fostering emotional wholeness in their children. The book delves into unconscious patterns formed in childhood, such as the "Imago"—the fantasy partner shaped by early attachments—and defensive parenting styles called "Maximizer" and "Minimizer." It presents a transformative Parenting Process designed to break the "cycle of wounding," emphasising the essentials of safety, support, and structure children truly need. By modelling healed adulthood, parents can guide their children to become healthy, responsible, and caring individuals.
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This book is ideal for parents seeking deeper emotional connection with their children and those interested in resolving personal childhood issues to improve family dynamics. It suits readers looking for thoughtful, psychologically informed approaches to parenting and personal growth.

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Harville Hendrix has illuminated the paths to healthy, loving relationships in his New York Times bestsellers Getting the Love You Want and Keeping the Love You Find. Now, with his coauthor and wife, Helen Hunt, he brings us to a new understanding of the most profound love of all — by helping parents nurture their own development as they encourage emotional wholeness in their children.

This groundbreaking book offers a unique opportunity for personal transformation: by resolving issues that originated in our own childhood, we can achieve a conscious, and thus healthier, relationship with our children, regardless of their age. Harville Hendrix and Helen Hunt help us explore:

- The Imago — the fantasy partner that our unconscious mind constructs from those we loved as a child, which has guided our search for a life partner
- Maximizer and Minimizer parents — the defensive styles that internally shape what we say and how we interact with our children
- A Parenting Process that helps to end the "cycle of wounding" — the handing-down of wounding we received as children — as we raise our own children
- Safety, Support, and Structure — how to give children what they really need from us
- Modeling Adulthood — using our healed sense of self as a model for our children.

With other practical, insightful approaches that can powerfully shape the parent-child bond, Giving the Love that Heals gives us the keys to helping our children to become healthy, responsible, and caring people.

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Booklist calls it a remarkable tool for improving parent-child relationships, while Library Journal praises it as a thought-provoking work beyond typical child-rearing guides. Experts like Don Browning from The Divinity School, University of Chicago, highlight its insightful exposure of how childhood relationships affect parenting. Dr Jerry M. Lewis, senior research psychiatrist, endorses the book for its arresting ideas and practical guidelines, recommending it to all parents.

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Book Details

INFORMATION

ISBN: 9780671793999

Publisher: Simon & Schuster

Format: Paperback / softback

Date Published: 01 August 1998

Country: United States

Imprint: Simon & Schuster

Audience: General / adult

DIMENSIONS

Spine width: 26.0mm

Width: 136.0mm

Height: 210.0mm

Weight: 340g

Pages: 357

About the Author

Harville Hendrix, Ph.D., a clinical pastoral counselor and co-creator of Imago Relationship Therapy, has more than thirty-five years' experience as an educator, public lecturer, and couples' therapist.

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