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Boyslut

A Memoir and Manifesto
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As a boy, Zachary Zane sensed that all was not right when images of his therapist naked popped into his head. He sometimes imagined other people naked, too, and without an explanation why, a deep sense of shame pervaded these thoughts. Though his therapist assured him... Read More
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A sex and relationship columnist bares it all in a series of essaysβ€”part memoir, part manifestoβ€”that explore the author's coming-of-age and coming out as a bisexual man and move toward embracing and celebrating sex unencumbered by shame

Now in paperback, a "refreshing. . . . accessible, engaging, and genuinely hilarious" (Buzzfeed) series of essays-part memoir, part manifesto-that explore coming-of-age and coming out as bisexual while moving toward embracing and celebrating sex without shame

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As a boy, Zachary Zane sensed that all was not right when images of his therapist naked popped into his head. He sometimes imagined other people naked, too, and without an explanation why, a deep sense of shame pervaded these thoughts. Though his therapist assured him a little imagination was nothing to be ashamed of, over the years, society told him otherwise.

Boyslut is a memoir-manifesto in which Zane articulates that, even today, we live in a world that shames people for the sex that they have and the sexualities that they inhabit. Through the lens of his bisexuality and much self-described sluttiness, Zane breaks down exactly how this sexual shame negatively impacts the sex and relationships in our lives, and through personal experience, shares how we can unlearn the harmful, entrenched messages that society imparts to us.

From stories of play sessions with a neighbour at age six to the first explorations of Zane's bisexuality in college, as well as sex-dungeon parties, orgies, and fun with butt plugs, Boyslut is reassuring and often painfully funny, and most potently, it is a testimony that we can all learn to live healthier lives unburdened by stigma.

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ISBN: 9781419764721

Publisher: Abrams

Format: Paperback / softback

Date Published: 09 May 2024

Country: United States

Imprint: Abrams Image

Audience: General / adult

DIMENSIONS

Spine width: 36.0mm

Width: 140.0mm

Height: 210.0mm

Weight: 104g

Pages: 240

About the Author

Zachary Zane is a Brooklyn-based columnist, sex expert, and activist whose work focuses on sexuality, culture, and the LGBTQ+ community. He is the author of Boyslut: A Memoir and Manifesto. He’s also the coauthor of Men’s Health: Best. Sex. Ever.

He has two columns: β€œSexplain It” the sex and relationship advice column at Men’s Health and β€œNavigating Non-Monogamy” at Cosmo, where he shares all the mistakes he’s made in his polyamory journey, so you don’t have to.

He is also the founder and editor in chief of Boyslut zine, which publishes real sex stories from kinksters worldwide. His work on sexuality and relationships has been published in the New York Times, Rolling Stone, the Washington Post, GQ, OUT, and many others.

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