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Why Am I Like This?

Break Your Relationship Patterns and Create The Life You Want
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For fans of Matthew Hussey, Jillian Turecki, Nicole LePera and Paul Brunson, Why Am I Like This? is a no-BS guide to breaking the patterns sabotaging your relational life – from popular dating coach and host of The Sabrina Zohar Show, Sabrina Zohar. 'A powerful guide... Read More
Format: Paperback / softback
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For fans of Matthew Hussey, Jillian Turecki, Nicole LePera and Paul Brunson, Why Am I Like This? is a no-BS guide to breaking the patterns sabotaging your relational life – from popular dating coach and host of The Sabrina Zohar Show, Sabrina Zohar.

'A powerful guide to recognizing your patterns, reclaiming your worth, and redefining your standards for love.' – Jay Shetty, bestselling author of 8 Rules of Love and host of the On Purpose podcast

Break toxic relational patterns, understand your attachment style, and build healthier relationships with this no-nonsense guide to love, self-worth and emotional healing.

If you keep falling into the same patterns – dating the same type, overthinking texts, shrinking yourself in life, settling for crumbs – and wondering, Why am I like this?, you're not alone. This book is for you.

You are not broken. The patterns you keep repeating – people-pleasing, self-doubt, avoidance, reactivity – are survival strategies your body learned to keep you safe. This is what relationship coach, Sabrina Zohar, calls your Bullshit Blueprint.

While it once protected you, it may now be blocking the love and personal security you truly want.

Drawing on psychology, neuroscience and nervous system research – as well as Sabrina's own raw journey of unravelling and rebuilding – Why Am I Like This? will invite you to break free from the patterns keeping you stuck in love and life, exploring how to:

  • Understand how your attachment style, childhood wounds and core beliefs shaped your unique Bullshit Blueprint
  • Recognise the four survival responses and how they quietly drive your dating behaviour
  • Break toxic cycles of feeling 'too much', 'not enough' or 'impossible to love'
  • Challenge the dating myths that push you towards the wrong people and away from the right ones
  • Regulate your emotions, set boundaries and finally choose yourself

Packed with straight-talking advice and practical tools, this book will help you stop abandoning yourself, rewire the patterns that keep you stuck and build a new, BS-free blueprint – rooted in self-trust, clarity and conscious choice.

Book Details

INFORMATION

ISBN: 9781529997507

Publisher: Cornerstone

Format: Paperback / softback

Date Published: 20 October 2026

Country: United Kingdom

Imprint: Del Rey

Audience: General / adult

DIMENSIONS

Spine width: 1.0mm

Width: 1.0mm

Height: 1.0mm

Weight: 1g

Pages: 304

About the Author

Sabrina Zohar is a dating and relationship coach, entrepreneur and the unapologetic voice behind The Sabrina Zohar Show podcast. She has been featured in Vogue, Glamour UK, the Los Angeles Times, Marie Claire, Vice, People and Huff Post, as well as appeared on shows such as ABC News, The Drew Barrymore Show, Tamron Hall, and Navigating Narcissism with Dr. Ramani.

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