Let's (Not) Talk About (Transgender) Sex

For decades, trans studies and queer theory have treated the trans body as a theoretical construct – a site for identity, dysphoria, and gender politics – leaving erotic realities largely unexamined. Desire, pleasure, and real sex have been pushed to the margins, rendered almost unspeakable.

This book challenges that silence. It asks why sexuality – once a privileged site of inquiry in queer theory – has all but vanished from trans scholarship, and what this erasure reveals about the politics of respectability, cisnormativity, and the lingering discomfort with bodies that refuse to behave “properly.”

Through rigorous analysis and intimate narrative, the book explores how bodies do things – and how different bodies do different things – shaping possibilities for desire, sensation, and intimacy. It interrogates the cultural and academic forces that have de-sexed trans subjects, examines the aesthetic and linguistic struggles around naming and eroticizing trans bodies, and charts a path toward a trans studies that embraces the messy, fleshy, and truly human dimensions of sexuality.

Both provocative and personal, Let's (Not) Talk About (Transgender) Sex insists that there can be no real account of gender without a reckoning with sex. It is a call to bring pleasure back into the conversation – not as an afterthought, but as a vital site of knowledge, resistance, and joy.