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The Mattering Instinct

How Our Deepest Longing Drives Us and Divides Us
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Rebecca Newberger Goldstein argues that the need to matter is the source of our greatest progress and our deepest conflicts: the very crux of the human experience. Goldstein brings this profound idea to life through stories of people pursuing their unique mattering projects: the ragtime genius... Read More
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A paradigm-shifting work that explores humanity’s most fundamental desire

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Rebecca Newberger Goldstein argues that the need to matter is the source of our greatest progress and our deepest conflicts: the very crux of the human experience. Goldstein brings this profound idea to life through stories of people pursuing their unique mattering projects: the ragtime genius Scott Joplin, whose dedication to his ignored masterpiece, Treemonisha, ended in tragedy; an impoverished Chinese woman who rescued abandoned newborns; and a skinhead who as a young man dealt racial violence to feel he mattered but ultimately renounced that past.

These portraits illuminate how our instinct for significance shapes identity, relationships, culture and conflictβ€”and they point the way to a future where we might see there is enough mattering to go around. Deeply revealing and insightful, The Mattering Instinct is for those curious about why we seek to matter to ourselves and othersβ€”and how this insatiable longing that drives us apart may be the key to understanding each other.

Book Details

INFORMATION

ISBN: 9781324096856

Publisher: W W Norton & Co Ltd

Format: Hardback

Date Published: 13 January 2026

Country: United States

Imprint: Liveright Publishing Corporation

Illustration: 1 map; 7 images

Audience: General / adult

DIMENSIONS

Spine width: 28.0mm

Width: 160.0mm

Height: 236.0mm

Weight: 598g

Pages: 352

About the Author

Rebecca Newberger Goldstein is an award-winning philosopher, writer, and public intellectual. She is the author of ten books of acclaimed fiction and non-fiction, including 36 Arguments for the Existence of God: A Work of Fiction and Betraying Spinoza: The Renegade Jew Who Gave Us Modernity. She holds a Ph.D. in philosophy of science from Princeton University and has taught at Yale, Columbia, NYU, Dartmouth, and Harvard. A fellow of the American Academy of Arts and Sciences, her work has been supported by the MacArthur β€œGenius” grant and fellowships from the Guggenheim, Whiting Institute, Radcliffe Institute, and the National Science Foundation. In 2015, she was awarded the National Humanities Medal by President Obama. She lives in Boston, Massachusetts.

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