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Rewriting the Rules

An Anti Self-Help Guide to Love, Sex and Relationships
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Rewriting the Rules: An Anti Self-Help Guide to Love, Sex and Relationships offers a fresh, compassionate perspective on the complex and often confusing world of modern relationships. Meg John Barker explores the many contradictory rules surrounding sex, gender, monogamy, commitment, and break-ups, encouraging readers to question inherited norms and find their own ways of loving. The updated edition addresses contemporary shifts such as polyamory, evolving concepts of sex and gender, and practical new approaches to commitment and separation when full break-up isn't an option.
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Ideal for readers navigating love and relationships in today’s changing social landscape, including those questioning traditional norms, exploring non-monogamy, or seeking a more personalised approach to intimacy and commitment.

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Rewriting the Rules: An Anti Self-Help Guide to Love, Sex and Relationships is a friendly guide through the complicated - and often contradictory - advice that's given about sex and gender, monogamy and conflict, break-up and commitment.

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We live in a time of uncertainty about relationships. We search for The One but find ourselves staying single because nobody measures up. We long for a happily-ever-after but break-up after break-up leaves us bruised and confused.

Rewriting the Rules: An Anti Self-Help Guide to Love, Sex and Relationships is a friendly guide through the complicatedβ€”and often contradictoryβ€”advice that's given about sex and gender, monogamy and conflict, break-up and commitment. It asks questions about the rules of love, such as which to choose from all the rules on offer? Do we stick to the old rules we learnt growing up, or do we try something new and risk being out on our own? And what about the times when the rules we live by seem to make things worse, rather than better?

This new edition, updated throughout, considers how the rules are being 'rewritten' in various waysβ€”for example, in monogamish and polyamorous relationships, different ways of understanding sex and gender, and new ideas for managing commitment and break-up where economics, communities, or childcare make complete separation impossible. This book considers how the rules are being β€˜rewritten’ in various ways, giving you the power to find an approach that best fits your situation.

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Esteemed voices in relationship therapy and writing praise this book for its insightful and open-minded guidance. Dossie Easton calls it a liberating read that empowers individuals to craft their own relationship rules, while Esther Perel regards it as a sharp and friendly companion through the complexities of modern love, worthy of close attention.

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INFORMATION

ISBN: 9781138043589

Publisher: Taylor & Francis Ltd

Format: Hardback

Date Published: 14 March 2018

Country: United Kingdom

Imprint: Routledge

Edition: 2nd edition

Illustration: 10 Tables, black and white; 2 Line drawings, black and white; 37 Halftones, black and white

Audience: General / adult

DIMENSIONS

Width: 138.0mm

Height: 216.0mm

Weight: 900g

Pages: 382

About the Author

Dr. Meg-John Barker is the author of popular books including Queer: A Graphic History, How to Understand Your Gender, Enjoy Sex (How, When and IF You Want To), The Psychology of Sex, and The Secrets of Enduring Love. They bring years of experience and expertise from therapy, academic research, and working in communities to the topics of sex, gender, and relationships. You can read Meg-John's blog to accompany this book at rewriting-the-rules.com.

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