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The Ethical Slut

A Practical Guide to Polyamory, Open Relationships, and Other Freedoms in Sex and Love
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The Ethical Slut by Janet W. Hardy and Dossie Easton is a groundbreaking exploration of consensual non-monogamy and open relationships. The book delves into the principles of sexual ethics, communication, and intimacy, offering guidance on how to maintain healthy and fulfilling relationships. With an emphasis on self-discovery and self-acceptance, it challenges traditional views on love, encouraging a more inclusive and understanding approach to multiple partners.
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This book may appeal to you if you're curious about exploring non-traditional forms of romance and relationships. It provides an insightful perspective on embracing ethical non-monogamy, offering practical advice and anecdotes that could resonate with anyone open to understanding diverse expressions of love.

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The Ethical Slut, the classic guide to love, sex, and intimacy beyond the limits of conventional monogamy, has sold nearly 200,000 copies and has been fully updated to reflect today's modern attitudes and the latest information on nontraditional relationships.

"One of the most useful relationship books you could ever read, no matter what your lifestyle choices. It's chock-full of great information about communication, jealousy, asking for what you want, and maintaining a relationship with integrity." - Annie Sprinkle, PhD, sexologist and author of Dr. Sprinkle's Spectacular Sex

For 20 years, The Ethical Slutβ€”widely known as the "Poly Bible"β€”has dispelled myths and showed curious readers how to maintain a successful polyamorous lifestyle through open communication, emotional honesty, and safer sex practices. The third edition of this timeless guide to the ethics of relationships, communication, and sex has been revised to include:

  • Interviews with poly millennialsβ€”young people who have grown up without the prejudices their elders encountered regarding gender, orientation, sexuality, and relationships
  • Tributes to polyamory pioneers
  • Tools for conflict resolution and instructions on how to improve interpersonal dynamics
  • New sidebars on topics such as asexuality, sex workers, LGBTQ terminology, and ways polys can connect and thrive

The authors also include new content addressing nontraditional relationships beyond the polyamorous paradigm of "more than two"β€”couples who don't live together, couples who don't have sex with each other, nonparallel arrangements, couples with widely divergent sex styles, power disparities, and cross-orientation relationships, while utilising nonbinary gender language and new terms that have come into common usage since the last edition.

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The Ethical Slut is considered a seminal work in the modern non-monogamy movement, with its third edition praised for adapting to a more nuanced and complex understanding of relationships today. Reviews highlight its updated focus on consent and the diverse ways ethical non-monogamy can manifest, acknowledging shifts in cultural attitudes over the past two decades. This edition reflects on societal changes, making it relevant for a new generation and solidifying its influence in the discourse on polyamory and sexuality.

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INFORMATION

ISBN: 9780399579660

Publisher: Ten Speed Press

Format: Paperback / softback

Date Published: 15 August 2017

Country: United States

Imprint: Ten Speed Press

Edition: 3rd Revised edition

Audience: General / adult

DIMENSIONS

Width: 150.0mm

Height: 229.0mm

Weight: 250g

Pages: 320

About the Author

Janet W. Hardy is the author of more than ten books and the founder of Greenery Press, a now defunct publisher specializing in sexually adventurous books. She has an MFA in creative writing from St. Mary's College, and swore off monogamy in 1987. Dossie Easton is a licensed marriage and family therapist specializing in alternative sexualities and relationships, with twenty years of experience counseling open relationships. She is the author of four other books, and has been an ethical slut since 1969.

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