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So Tell Me About the Last Time You Had Sex

laying bare and learning to repair our love lives
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So Tell Me About the Last Time You Had Sex by Ian Kerner is a practical guide aimed at improving sexual satisfaction and relationships. The author uses his expertise to offer insights and solutions to common sexual issues, encouraging couples to communicate openly and understand their needs more deeply. Without giving spoilers, the book provides a structured approach to revitalising intimacy and enhancing personal connections.
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You might enjoy this book if you're interested in enhancing your understanding of communication within intimate relationships. It offers insightful advice and practical exercises on improving connection and sexual satisfaction, making it a valuable resource for those looking to deepen their romantic bonds.

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Maybe You Should Talk to Someone meets Come As You Are. Renowned sex therapist and New York Times bestselling author Ian Kerner shares the programme he uses to help thousands of couples achieve more intimacy and better sex.

Think about the last time you had sex. Who initiated it? When and where did it happen? What was off-limits and why? In the end, did the sex leave you motivated to have more?

Over the years, internationally recognised sex therapist and author of She Comes First, Ian Kerner, has perfected the art of the 'sex script analysis'β€”a way of looking at your sex life in action, moment by moment. In those details, an entire world is revealed. When the script works, we drop down into arousal and lose ourselves in pleasure. But when the script fails, it's all we can do not to ruminate over the details.

In So Tell Me About the Last Time You Had Sex, Kerner shows you how to conceptualise and create a sex life that works for you. He helps you figure out what's working, what's not, where you might be missing some elements, and how to construct a sex script that is mutually satisfying. He also discusses many common sexual problemsβ€”such as low desire, mismatched libido, and erectile unpredictabilityβ€”that may be interfering with your sex life.

Combining clinical insight, the latest sexual science and research, case studies, homework assignments, and more, this is a book that does more than just talk about sex; it's a book that will get you to do something about sex.

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So Tell Me About the Last Time You Had Sex by Ian Kerner is praised for its practical approach to improving communication and intimacy in relationships. Reviewers commend the author’s expertise as a sex therapist, highlighting the book's direct yet empathetic style. Readers appreciate the actionable advice and exercises provided, which aim to enhance understanding and connection between partners.

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Book Details

INFORMATION

ISBN: 9781922310804

Publisher: Scribe Publications

Format: Paperback / softback

Date Published: 01 June 2021

Country: Australia

Imprint: Scribe Publications

Audience: General / adult

DIMENSIONS

Spine width: 26.0mm

Width: 154.0mm

Height: 233.0mm

Weight: 458g

Pages: 368

About the Author

Ian Kerner is a licensed US psychotherapist and nationally recognised sexuality counselor who specialises in sex therapy, couples therapy, and working with individuals on a range of relational issues. He is the New York Times bestselling author of She Comes First and many more, focusing on healing sexuality and relationships. He is a Clinical Fellow of the American Association of Marriage and Family Therapists, and is certified by the American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors, and Therapists (where he also sits on the board); the Society for Sex Therapy and Research; and the Institute for Contemporary Psychotherapy.

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