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The State Of Affairs
Rethinking Infidelity - a book for anyone who has ever loved
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Psychotherapist and TED talk speaker challenges us to understand infidelity, and how couples can survive it: a must-read for anyone who has ever loved.
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The State of Affairs by Esther Perel is an insightful and thought-provoking exploration into the intricate dynamics of infidelity. Esteemed relationship therapist Esther Perel invites readers to delve deep into the reasons behind why people cheat, the emotional impacts of betrayal, and the potential for growth and transformation in the aftermath of an affair. By examining personal stories, Perel challenges the conventional perception of infidelity as an unforgivable act and considers it as an opportunity for introspection and renewal.
New York Times Bestseller
Is there such a thing as an affair-proof marriage? Can one truly love more than one person at a time? Why do people engage in infidelity? Can an affair ever strengthen a relationship? In The State of Affairs, Perel addresses these complex questions with her signature blend of empathy and expertise, offering a fresh perspective on contemporary relationships.
Infidelity is often seen as the ultimate betrayal because it strikes at the core of our emotional security and self-worth. Perel delves into the underlying motivations for cheating, revealing that it often stems from a sense of longing and loss rather than mere lust or desire. Through a nuanced approach, Perel contends that understanding why affairs happen can pave the way for healing and rekindling intimacy within a marriage.
Whether you have experienced infidelity personally or are seeking a deeper understanding of relationship dynamics, this book is a must-read. Perel's work is essential for anyone who has ever cheated, been cheated on, or simply wants to reframe their perspective on love and commitment.
"Esther Perel does nothing short of strip us of our deepest biases, remind us of our purpose in connecting as lovers, and save relationships that might otherwise sink into the sea—all with even-handed wisdom, fresh morality, and wise prose. Thank heavens for this woman." - Lena Dunham
"Beautiful. A brilliantly intelligent plea for complexity, understanding, and—as always—kindness." - Alain de Botton
"She's the guru on relationships... she's the first person I ask for advice." - Cara Delevingne
"Wisest sex therapist we ever did meet. Her new book, The State of Affairs, proposes a new perspective on infidelity." - Grazia
"This is a must-have for all married couples and has completely changed my thinking." - Sunday Times Style
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The State Of Affairs by Esther Perel invites readers to re-evaluate their judgements on infidelity. It encourages understanding the reasons behind affairs and the realities they entail. Perel's intelligent and compassionate approach urges readers to adopt complexity, understanding, and kindness in their perspectives.
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ISBN: 9781473673557
Publisher: Hodder & Stoughton
Format: Paperback / softback
Date Published: 03 October 2019
Country: United Kingdom
Imprint: Yellow Kite
Illustration: N/A
Audience: General / adult
DIMENSIONS
Spine width: 30.0mm
Width: 128.0mm
Height: 196.0mm
Weight: 236g
Pages: 336
About the Author
Psychotherapist and New York Times bestselling author Esther Perel is recognised as one of today's most insightful and original voices on modern relationships. Fluent in nine languages, she helms a therapy practice in New York City and serves as an organisational consultant for Fortune 500 companies around the world. Her celebrated TED Talks have garnered more than 30 million views and her international bestseller Mating in Captivity: Unlocking Erotic Intelligence is a global phenomenon that has been translated into nearly 30 languages. Her newest book is the New York Times bestseller The State of Affairs: Rethinking Infidelity. Esther is also an executive producer and host of the popular podcasts Where Should We Begin? and How's Work? Learn more at EstherPerel.com or by following @EstherPerelOfficial on Instagram.
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