The State Of Affairs

The State of Affairs by Esther Perel is an insightful and thought-provoking exploration into the intricate dynamics of infidelity. Esteemed relationship therapist Esther Perel invites readers to delve deep into the reasons behind why people cheat, the emotional impacts of betrayal, and the potential for growth and transformation in the aftermath of an affair. By examining personal stories, Perel challenges the conventional perception of infidelity as an unforgivable act and considers it as an opportunity for introspection and renewal.

New York Times Bestseller

Is there such a thing as an affair-proof marriage? Can one truly love more than one person at a time? Why do people engage in infidelity? Can an affair ever strengthen a relationship? In The State of Affairs, Perel addresses these complex questions with her signature blend of empathy and expertise, offering a fresh perspective on contemporary relationships.

Infidelity is often seen as the ultimate betrayal because it strikes at the core of our emotional security and self-worth. Perel delves into the underlying motivations for cheating, revealing that it often stems from a sense of longing and loss rather than mere lust or desire. Through a nuanced approach, Perel contends that understanding why affairs happen can pave the way for healing and rekindling intimacy within a marriage.

Whether you have experienced infidelity personally or are seeking a deeper understanding of relationship dynamics, this book is a must-read. Perel's work is essential for anyone who has ever cheated, been cheated on, or simply wants to reframe their perspective on love and commitment.

"Esther Perel does nothing short of strip us of our deepest biases, remind us of our purpose in connecting as lovers, and save relationships that might otherwise sink into the sea—all with even-handed wisdom, fresh morality, and wise prose. Thank heavens for this woman." - Lena Dunham

"Beautiful. A brilliantly intelligent plea for complexity, understanding, and—as always—kindness." - Alain de Botton

"She's the guru on relationships... she's the first person I ask for advice." - Cara Delevingne

"Wisest sex therapist we ever did meet. Her new book, The State of Affairs, proposes a new perspective on infidelity." - Grazia

"This is a must-have for all married couples and has completely changed my thinking." - Sunday Times Style