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I Love You but I'm Not in Love with You

Seven Steps to Saving Your Relationship
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One in four couples seeking help with therapist Andrew G. Marshall share the concern: ‘I love you but I'm not in love with you’. This book explores why relationships often shift from passion to mere companionship, and why companionship alone may no longer suffice. Drawing on extensive research, Marshall presents a seven-step programme focusing on communication, conflict resolution, love expression, responsibility, and shared growth. It offers couples a clear and empowering path to understanding themselves and reigniting the connection they once had.
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This book is suited to couples experiencing a loss of passion, relationship therapists, and readers interested in strengthening emotional bonds in long-term partnerships.

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How do you fall back in love? This was the underlying problem of one in four couples seeking help from relationship therapist Andrew G. Marshall. They described their problem as: I love you but I'm not in love with you. Noticing how widespread the phenomenon had become, he decided to look more closely. Why were these relationships becoming defined more by companionship than by passion, and why was companionship no longer enough?

From his research, Andrew has devised his own unique programme. By looking at how a couple communicate, argue, share love, take responsibility, give and learn, he offers in seven steps a reassuring and empowering map for how two individuals can better understand themselves, strengthen their bond, and recover that lost magic.

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Psychologies Magazine praises the book for its sensitivity, intelligence, and practical advice. It highlights Marshall's belief that falling out of love need not mean the relationship’s end and commends his insightful guidance on restoring intimacy while maintaining individuality.

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Book Details

INFORMATION

ISBN: 9781408870334

Publisher: Bloomsbury Publishing PLC

Format: Paperback / softback

Date Published: 14 January 2016

Country: United Kingdom

Imprint: Bloomsbury Publishing PLC

Audience: General / adult

DIMENSIONS

Spine width: 22.0mm

Width: 128.0mm

Height: 196.0mm

Weight: 215g

Pages: 304

About the Author

Andrew G Marshall is the author of I Love You But I'm Not in Love With You, How Can I Ever Trust You Again? and the Seven Steps series of practical relationship manuals. His books have been translated into over fifteen different languages. He writes for the Mail on Sunday, The Times, the Guardian and Psychologies magazine. He lives in West Sussex.

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