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The Handbook for Companioning the Mourner

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The Handbook for Companioning the Mourner by Alan Wolfelt offers a compassionate guide to supporting those who are grieving. Combining a counselling approach with a deep understanding of empathy, it presents 11 tenets designed to foster mourner-led care. These principles emphasise listening with an open heart, accepting emotional confusion, and valuing presence over words, helping caretakers, friends, and family to truly accompany the bereaved through their grief journey.
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This handbook is ideal for counsellors, healthcare professionals, and anyone seeking to provide empathetic support to people experiencing loss. It is also valuable for friends and family members wanting to understand how to be present and companion others through mourning with sensitivity and respect.

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Explores the ways companionship eases grief. Suitable for caretakers who work with grieving people or for friends and family just hoping to stay close, this book outlines 11 tenets for mourner-led care.

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Partly a counselling model and partly an explanation of true empathy, this handbook explores the ways companionship eases grief. For caretakers who work with grieving people or for friends and family just hoping to stay close, 11 tenets are outlined for mourner-led care.

These simple rules call for understanding another person's pain, listening with the heart rather than the head, not filling up every minute with words, respecting confusion and disorder, and relying on curiosity rather than expertise.

The Handbook for Companioning the Mourner by Alan Wolfelt provides valuable insights that benefit both professional caretakers and those offering personal support to mourners.

Series: The Companioning Series

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  • The Handbook for Companioning the Mourner
    Partly a counselling model and partly an explanation of true empathy, this handbook explores the ways companionship eases grief. For caretakers who work with grieving people or for friends and family just hoping to stay close, 11 tenets are outlined for mourner-led care. These simple rules call for understanding another person's pain, listening with the heart rather than the head,...
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ISBN: 9781879651616

Publisher: Companion Press,US

Format: Hardback

Date Published: 01 April 2009

Country: United States

Imprint: Companion Press,US

Illustration: Illustrations

Audience: General / adult

DIMENSIONS

Spine width: 15.0mm

Width: 127.0mm

Height: 203.0mm

Weight: 254g

Pages: 128

About the Author

Alan D Wolfelt Ph.D. serves as director of the Center for Loss and Life Transition. He writes the 'Children and Grief' column for Bereavement Magazine and has appeared on The Oprah Winfrey Show, Larry King Live, and Today. He is the author of Healing Your Grieving Heart, Healing a Teen's Grieving Heart, and Understanding Your Grief. He lives in Fort Collins, Colorado.

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