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Self-Sabotage

And Other Ways I've Spent My Time
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In the vein of works by Gary Janetti and Danny Pellegrino, an honest, funny, and heartfelt memoir-in-essays about chasing your dreams, making big messes, and finding yourself along the way. In his debut book for adults, Jeffery Self invites readers into his world, taking them through... Read More
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"In the vein of works by Gary Janetti and Danny Pellegrino, an honest, funny, and heartfelt memoir-in-essays about chasing your dreams, making big messes, and finding yourself along the way"--

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In the vein of works by Gary Janetti and Danny Pellegrino, an honest, funny, and heartfelt memoir-in-essays about chasing your dreams, making big messes, and finding yourself along the way.

In his debut book for adults, Jeffery Self invites readers into his world, taking them through the usual foibles of gay adolescence, amplified in the vast wasteland of the American South and the odd characters who peopled it. From shoddy community theatre productions to underage drinking with Broadway stars, from downtown comedy rooms to adventure-filled bedrooms, the journey is vibrant and quirky.

Along the way, Self shares his experiences of acting in TV and film, touring live comedy around the world, getting booed off gay cruise ships, a tenure in the β€œoldest profession,” meeting his heroes, falling in love, getting his heart broken, breaking other people’s hearts, being hated, hating himself, and on the best of days, finding stuff to like about himself, too.

Self-Sabotage is a deeply personal and intimate exploration of Self’s life, filled with humour, heartache, and a hearty dose of bipolar disorder. It asks the profound question of how you become the person you want to be when so much of yourself is a secretβ€”and how you learn to accept yourself when it’s not. It is also, of course, side-splittingly funny.

Book Details

INFORMATION

ISBN: 9780063328778

Publisher: HarperCollins Publishers Inc

Format: Hardback

Date Published: 22 May 2025

Country: United States

Imprint: HarperOne

Audience: General / adult

DIMENSIONS

Spine width: 22.0mm

Width: 152.0mm

Height: 229.0mm

Weight: 386g

Pages: 272

About the Author

Jeffery Self is a writer and actor whose television credits include Search Party, The Horror of Dolores Roach, Shameless, 30 Rock, Desperate Housewives, as well as co-creating and starring in the cult lo-fi series Jeffery & Cole Casserole with Cole Escola. His film credits include Drop, Spoiler Alert, Mack & Rita, and The High Note. He is the author of the young adult novels Drag Teen and A Very, Very Bad Thing. He lives in New York City.

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