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You Just Don't Understand

Women and Men in Conversation
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Deborah Tannen explores the conversational differences between men and women, proposing that they often speak in essentially different cultural styles. She explains how women typically use language to seek confirmation and build connections, while men use it to assert independence and establish status. This leads to misunderstandings and communication breakdowns, which Tannen illustrates through engaging examples and anecdotes.
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This insightful book is ideal for readers interested in communication, relationships, and social psychology, especially those seeking to understand gender dynamics in conversation.

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Why do women feel that men don't tell them anything, but just lecture and criticise? Why do men feel that women nag them and never get to the point? Deborah Tannen shows us how women and men talk in different ways. While women use language to make connections and reinforce intimacy, men use it to preserve their status and independence.

* Widespread media attention anticipated when Deborah Tannen is in the UK to promote I ONLY SAY THIS BECAUSE I LOVE YOU

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Why is it that some women and men seem to talk at cross purposes? Some have claimed that conversations are the forum of male power games, but the author suggests that jockeying for attention is not the whole story and that even when domination is the result, it is not always the intention. She shows how many frictions may arise because girls and boys grow up in essentially different cultures.

Where women use language to seek confirmation, make connections and reinforce intimacies, men use it to protect their independence and negotiate status. The result is that conversation becomes a cross-cultural communication, fraught with genuine confusion.

Using examples and anecdotes, You Just Don't Understand offers an approach to banishing the misunderstandings that confuse our relationships.

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'Tannen combines a novelist's ear for the way people speak with a rare power of original analysis ... fascinating' – Oliver Sacks

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Book Details

INFORMATION

ISBN: 9781853814716

Publisher: Little, Brown Book Group

Format: Paperback / softback

Date Published: 26 March 1992

Country: United Kingdom

Imprint: Virago Press Ltd

Audience: General / adult

DIMENSIONS

Spine width: 22.0mm

Width: 129.0mm

Height: 198.0mm

Weight: 230g

Pages: 336

About the Author

Best-selling author Deborah Tannen is University Professor and Professor of Linguistics at Georgetown University. She has also been McGraw Distinguished Lecturer at Princetown University.

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