How to Raise a Gentle Man

From birth, we treat boys differently to girls: we hold them less, talk to them less, and discipline them more harshly. Society is full of stereotyped masculinity, and families often pass down inherited beliefs of what 'manliness' should look like.

How to Raise a Gentle Man is a book for any parent or carer who wants to break that cycle and for those who are fed up with boys being blamed for everything. Toxic masculinity doesn't just hurt women and girls, it hurts boys too.

Sarah Ockwell-Smith, bestselling childcare expert and mother to three young men, argues that the answer to raising kind, respectful, and gentle boys is not to ban social media or access to the internet, lay the blame solely at the feet of the incel movement or misogynistic influencers, or to introduce reactionary governmental education policies as a response to Netflix dramas.

The only truly effective way to help our boys is through the way we raise them.

How to Raise a Gentle Man gives step-by-step instructions for concerned parents and carers who want to get to the root of the problem and help boys to thrive in the manosphere. Whether you're a parent to a newborn, a teacher to an eight-year-old, or raising a teenager, you'll find plenty of advice here for you.