{"product_id":"the-cost-of-quiet-by-colette-jane-fehr-9781035424368","title":"The Cost of Quiet","description":"\u003cdiv class=\"book-description\"\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003cstrong\u003eAn empowering, healing guide that reveals the true cost of avoidant behaviour in a relationship - disconnection, disengagement, and divorce - and shows how we can instead learn to speak up and start connecting with the ones we love most.\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\n\n\u003cp\u003e\u003cem\u003e'I wish I had spoken up sooner.'\u003c\/em\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\n\n\u003cp\u003ePeople think relationships fail because of deal breakers like infidelity, finances, or parenting problems. But the real culprit is often much less dramatic: emotional disconnection after years of staying silent and avoiding conflict. We're afraid to say what we need because we worry about what will come next.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\n\u003cp\u003eAvoidant behaviour - the need to 'keep the peace' rather than dealing with conflict head on - isn't our fault. Our ingrained attachment wiring urges us to sidestep day-to-day disputes and brush lingering problems under the rug. But silence is a losing proposition in the long term, leading us to self-abandon and essentially 'quiet quit' our relationships.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\n\u003cp\u003eWe can make another choice. In \u003cem\u003eThe Cost of Quiet\u003c\/em\u003e, licensed marriage and family therapist Colette Jane Fehr shines a light on the epidemic of avoidant behaviour and how to overcome it. Drawing from the latest attachment science and evidence-based therapies she's used to repair the bond between hundreds of couples, Fehr gives us the tools to approach those we love with openness, honesty and vulnerability. The ultimate goal: a securely attached relationship that engages with conflict productively, and the confidence that comes from speaking up and being heard - because a good relationship is worth fighting for.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003c\/div\u003e","brand":"Hachette Aotearoa New Zealand","offers":[{"title":"Default Title","offer_id":47607920722156,"sku":"9781035424368","price":39.99,"currency_code":"NZD","in_stock":true}],"thumbnail_url":"\/\/cdn.shopify.com\/s\/files\/1\/0705\/7784\/8556\/files\/2aa7f71e4762c13bac20c24a7d05c6d8.jpg?v=1778186502","url":"https:\/\/bookhero.co.nz\/products\/the-cost-of-quiet-by-colette-jane-fehr-9781035424368","provider":"Book Hero","version":"1.0","type":"link"}