{"product_id":"the-ambivalent-daughter-by-bethanie-gorny-9781667882475","title":"The Ambivalent Daughter","description":"\u003cdiv class=\"book-description\"\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003cem\u003eThe Ambivalent Daughter: Memoir of a Conflicted Caregiver\u003c\/em\u003e is the compelling story of a mother and daughter struggling to adjust after the mother has a severe stroke. Suddenly, Bethanie is faced with the need to assume responsibility for the care of her octogenarian mother, who has become completely disabled. The two strong, independent women have never gotten along, which complicates matters.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\n\u003cp\u003eGertrude needs total care and moves to a nursing home near her daughter. Bethanie is a professor dedicated to her career and her husband. Gertrude is angry and despondent about how her life has turned out. She finds she has lost all her independence in the residential setting, where everything is lockstep. Bethanie visits her mother daily to keep her spirits up and oversee her care.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\n\u003cp\u003eShe observes nursing home practices that do not serve the best interests of her mother and becomes a fervent advocate for changes in the care her mother receives. She insists that her mother's emotional needs be addressed as well as her medical ones, and that more individualisation of care be implemented. Through her reflections on the past, the reader gains insight into the reasons for her ambivalence.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\n\u003cp\u003eBethanie feels increasingly torn between the needs of her mother, her husband, and her career, and begins to show signs of stress and depression. Her only sibling lives in Canada, and she feels frustrated at not being more involved in her mother's care, causing dissension between the sisters. Bethanie's husband is supportive, but Bethanie feels guilty about how much time has been taken from their relationship by her mother's needs.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\n\u003cp\u003eThe action takes place over one year and is divided into short chapters highlighting critical events. The heart of the book is the interaction between a mother and daughter. The problems that exist in nursing homes is a theme embedded in the narrative. The stroke serves as a catalyst for positive changes in their relationship.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\n\u003cp\u003eAdult children coping with their aging parents' health problems will identify with the story and gain perspective and fresh ideas on how to cope and what to expect. The book is a poignant memoir that describes an ever more common scenario as people live longer.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003c\/div\u003e","brand":"Hachette Aotearoa New Zealand","offers":[{"title":"Default Title","offer_id":47599028240620,"sku":"9781667882475","price":32.99,"currency_code":"NZD","in_stock":true}],"thumbnail_url":"\/\/cdn.shopify.com\/s\/files\/1\/0705\/7784\/8556\/files\/9781667882475-the-ambivalent-daughter.jpg?v=1777971721","url":"https:\/\/bookhero.co.nz\/products\/the-ambivalent-daughter-by-bethanie-gorny-9781667882475","provider":"Book Hero","version":"1.0","type":"link"}